Soul Sistas! & Letting Go Of Toxic Friendships.

YASS to all my gorgeous sisters out there!

Every girl needs those girls they can lean on when times are hard, fun or whatever emotions you are going through. I am beyond blessed with the strong ladies I am surrounded by.

Although I am in a much better place now, surrounded by great and caring friends, I have been through some 'toxic' friendships.

To me toxic friendships dont have to be dramatic; "ooo she stole my man", or "she has been spreading lies".

Toxic friendships are friendships that stop me from growing spiritually, deny me my self worth, leave me feeling hurt, paranoid & empty, I can go on but anything that can bring a lot of negativity to my life.

Has a friend ever left you feeling guilty for being happy? Do you have that type of friend you have to hesitate to share any good news for the fear of jealousy or fear of deverting attention away from them, friends who rejoice in your sadness or do you simply feel like an extra in their lives?. If so, that's toxic my sis.

Cherish good friendships

Some people have issues that they need to solve before they can be close to someone & this maybe the reason why they act a certain way. Now I'm not saying you cannot love your enemy (frenemy) but if it brings too much negativity for you to handle and it turns you into someone you dont want to be, I

suggest you distance yourself. As much as I would have loved to still be friends with people from my past and worked through whatever our issues were, I know that I wouldnt have progressed.

I remember one friendship was so toxic that I began to lose my self spiritually and mentally. I was (and still a little) a person who was easily influenced and naive. I didn't know who I was or what my values and morals were anymore.

Everyone around me saw a negative change. When I was finally convicted I knew I had to let go of this toxic friendship. This was particularly difficult because I value friendships so much and when I love, I love HARD. I really dislike conflict and upsetting anyone.

I do not hold (or try not to, Jesus help me!) hold anything against this friendship. I understand that it just wasn't appropriate for it to continue. I do believe toxic friendships can be resolved.

We are young people, so sometimes we need to go away and come back reformed and maybe when we are wiser and mature these friendships will be built on solid ground.

So in short, if you feel that a friendship is bringing too much negativity for you to handle then you should distance yourself and let them go. Love them from afar but work on your relationship with Jesus and in turn this should give you a clearer understanding of what to do next.

Surround yourself with positivity

This autumn is all about enjoying my "girls time" and just loving life!. Don't let the cold weather get you down. Single? So what. Text your girls and just spend some quality time.

One of my favourite things to do with some of my girls is to fellowship. We meet up fortnightly and go through the Bible and spend quality time with Jesus! Honestly I always feel SO revived after these sessions.

Its crazy how you can be going through similar things with other people. There is nothing better than it. You connect with God and your friends. Together you are able to be sisters in Christ and be each other's motivation to live a better life.

I also enjoy going to the cinemas. I often spend most of my time with my sissy watching every and any movie out there. The cinema has become my second home. Lush.

Or even just a call from a bestie is more than enough.I literally spend HOURS on the phone to my bestie Chan.

#friendships #sisters #advice